Firends

Forever is a very long time. How is it that people can talk so casually about a concept that we cannot even wrap our minds around? Sometimes we have a friend and we sense that our souls are very closely connected. We know that the connection is above time and space. We know that wherever we are in our lives we will always remain friends. Even if we do not see each other for years we are able to pick up right where we left off. This is what people mean when they say friends forever.

 

I recently wrote about three people who are very close to me and who have had a particularly torrid time of late. They have been ill not only because of one illness but unfortunately in all three cases, two because something else has also arrived on the scene and meant there are secondary issues to deal with as well.  In all of their cases their ability to remain focused and positive has been exceptional.  I am by nature a positive person and I generally look at life from that angle, I have always been able to do so but until now I had not quite realised this ability is enhanced by the friends I have around me. Friends who have been able to keep showing  positivity and light to these situations whenever I have needed support, guidance and a laugh.  

 The poem at the top of the page also holds true as sometimes I do not see these friends for long periods of time but it is as if we have always been in contact with one another and can take up where we left off with no guilt about the period of time we have been apart. 

 

No Man Is An Island

No man is an island,
Entire of itself.
Each is a piece of the continent,
A part of the main.
If a clod be washed away by the sea,
Europe is the less.
As well as if a promontory were.
As well as if a manor of thine own
Or of thine friend’s were.
Each man’s death diminishes me,
For I am involved in mankind.
Therefore, send not to know
For whom the bell tolls,
It tolls for thee.

 

There is no doubt my belief about self-reliance stands firm.  As an individual it is important to realise that I am in control of my thoughts and actions.  I am the one that makes the decisions I take in life and have to deal with the consequences of those decisions.  What is wonderful though is that I am generally better at those decisions when I have the support and backing of very close friends.  This is a special thank you to all of those who have been there or offered to be there when required. No man is an Island

 

Now a quick update on life.  The book is now out and I am very pleased with what we have achieved in pulling it together.  It has been a great journey and has given me an understanding of how the world of writing and publication works.  I have been fortunate that in this case I have been fully supported by Elliot and Thomson publishing and numerous others including my co-author and friend Simon Ackland.

 

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Work has been busy and I am looking forward to working with a number of new groups over the next few weeks – more to follow on that later.

 

I start a new training regime on Saturday and I have been working quite hard on getting my body more flexible.  It has been fun listening to my daughters laugh as I try more difficult stretches, usually followed by the quote “ I used to be able to do this with ease”

 

I am also back to the boxing gym next week, I had a session on the bag and realised I need to sharpen up once more.  I was also listening to the son of one of my ex colleagues who was a great boxer and very professional soldier.  The son recounted how two very large and aggressive men got on to  a tube that he was on and started to push into him and a young mother on the train. He asked if they could be careful so that the young child was not hurt and that they were scaring the young woman.  They proceeded to hurl abuse at them both.    Sadly for them his father was two steps back on the same tube.  The father then explained to the two men that they were out of line and should refrain from further comment.  In one of those wonderful Jason Bourne moments at the next stop when they got off the two thugs both realised that they should have refrained from speaking as they did as one was knocked down and then ran away to leave his friend pleading to not be hurt.    Hmmm……Have a wonderful weekend

 

 

 

4 thoughts on “Firends

  1. Floyd,
    This post and Tuesday evening at the book launch testifies to the power and spirit of friends and sport . What an atmosphere that was generated. It reminded me of a combination of a Saturday night at a rugby club after a famous victory, a Xerox Eastern Export Operations reunion, and one of my highest impact and most successful client engagements synchronised to coincide with the Munich Bierfest. As for the eclectic cast of characters assembled from differing walks of your life including the friends of friends they attest to your own remarkable qualities and the content of the book which when applied is extraordinarily powerful. Congratulations to both yourself and Simon Acland in pulling both the book it off. Can I also extend an accolade to to the D Group for hosting such a phenomenal ensemble and band of kindred spirits.

    Yes I am biased. For those that don’t know I was mentioned in dispatches in the acknowledgements. However the reality is that when I met Floyd the wheel of my life (see p 67 ) was non existent and at Ground zero on all counts. In many respects the help through Floyd, his family and friends (WS, RL, VO, JM are examples) has through our dialogues (Yes VO rather long and CH I can wax less than lyrical.) I know transformed my life as a one man Chrysalis Project. Slight divergence and I feel you put this in for me; I have to say the Xerox story you tell on p 104 is worth the book alone if put into practice. I’d never come across it before. I’m going to be a negotiators nightmare from now on!

    What struck me most at the book launch was the value I gained from talking to your children and the nature of the family and friends interaction. Congratulations to yourself and Sue. I might have missed updates on your Mum but please share my summary and best wishes. When I go to such events as the worlds second worst networker I always assess what I could have done better. Well I missed speaking to DS who helped me out ages ago and doesn’t even know he helped me out. RW and myself have a mutual friend who was once his boss and I apologise for not reintroducing myself. Simon Acland apologies for not introducing myself and whoever organised it at the D group it was remiss of me not to thank yourselves personally. Brian and your friend we had a marvelous discussion. I have a view we solved some of the worlds more pressing problems and how I might reinvent myself. Your recommendations are lamentably lost and we might need to reconvene.

    What went well? There is so much to learn from your children’s attitude and approach to life. I can see how Joe keeps you in the red zone.He should meet Ali my steps on and take him on at squash! What a career ahead (as with all your children) Rosie I have to say became before I met her a role model for my daughter Chloe who just won her first major showjumping event. Meeting her I felt I had known her for ages.

    You might regret teaching your daughters negotiation tactics (p 104) but with subtle repetition you conclude with advice that if you take only one thing from that chapter the key to successful communication is to listen. And in my brief discussion with Rhiannon it was very clear that she had me ‘on the ropes.’ Congratulations Rhiannon, who coincidentally graduated at the same Uni as Nickie on a 2.1 and your job at MP. ( I know their recruitment process so that is a great achievement in it’s own right.) Rhiannon listened to my life update. She then asked a question the key issue is are you happy in your life Richard? If didn’t give response at the time – the real answer is for the first time in 17 years (that’s when the brain tumour symptoms first surfaced) I am back to how I was and all the better for it. I am after experiencing the equivalent of a high and low latitude aurora enjoying life with a sense of direction.

    What am I going to do differently? Well it must be to take the opportunities when they are presented and have no qualms about creating them for others either. He who hesitates ca nbe networking lost.

    I am thoroughly enjoying the book I remember someone once said about writing a book – if it is not difficult it would not be true. Now this is a true book and I am not sure if it was difficult to write but it is easy to read …..and a great read. To return to the subject of the post thank you for being a great friend.

    Richard Cross

  2. Floyd,

    Richard (who responded above) and I have known each other for many years. I count him both as a stimulating individual and a friend. We must have that coffee Richard! Friendship needs to be maintained. Floyd you and I have not met, but I understand from Richard what a profound effect you have had upon him. I knew him before when the stimulation of his conversation sparkled and brought clarity to complex issues. He was fun too. He states above how deep his slough was. I saw his fall and we met on occasions whilst he groped through the darkness induced by his illness. Speaking to him this morning, it is apparent that the old Richard is back. He credits your support and guidance reflected in the friendship you share in achieving this recovery.

    It sounds like this book is worth following up, and I would value your dropping me a note so that I may buy a copy from you.

    Will Hooper

  3. Floyd,

    I can only echo Richard’s sentiments regarding the event, it was indeed an honour to have had the opportunity to come along and meet some of the people who have been instrumental in your success. I am only sorry that I did not get the opportunity to meet you personally, mine was unfortunately a brief stay.

    I would also very much like to know where I can purchase a copy of the book. I wish you every success with it Floyd.

    Clare

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