Forever is a very long time. How is it that people can talk so casually about a concept that we cannot even wrap our minds around? Sometimes we have a friend and we sense that our souls are very closely connected. We know that the connection is above time and space. We know that wherever we are in our lives we will always remain friends. Even if we do not see each other for years we are able to pick up right where we left off. This is what people mean when they say friends forever.
I recently wrote about three people who are very close to me and who have had a particularly torrid time of late. They have been ill not only because of one illness but unfortunately in all three cases, two because something else has also arrived on the scene and meant there are secondary issues to deal with as well. In all of their cases their ability to remain focused and positive has been exceptional. I am by nature a positive person and I generally look at life from that angle, I have always been able to do so but until now I had not quite realised this ability is enhanced by the friends I have around me. Friends who have been able to keep showing positivity and light to these situations whenever I have needed support, guidance and a laugh.
The poem at the top of the page also holds true as sometimes I do not see these friends for long periods of time but it is as if we have always been in contact with one another and can take up where we left off with no guilt about the period of time we have been apart.
No Man Is An Island
No man is an island, Entire of itself. Each is a piece of the continent, A part of the main. If a clod be washed away by the sea, Europe is the less. As well as if a promontory were. As well as if a manor of thine own Or of thine friend’s were. Each man’s death diminishes me, For I am involved in mankind. Therefore, send not to know For whom the bell tolls, It tolls for thee.
There is no doubt my belief about self-reliance stands firm. As an individual it is important to realise that I am in control of my thoughts and actions. I am the one that makes the decisions I take in life and have to deal with the consequences of those decisions. What is wonderful though is that I am generally better at those decisions when I have the support and backing of very close friends. This is a special thank you to all of those who have been there or offered to be there when required. No man is an Island
Now a quick update on life. The book is now out and I am very pleased with what we have achieved in pulling it together. It has been a great journey and has given me an understanding of how the world of writing and publication works. I have been fortunate that in this case I have been fully supported by Elliot and Thomson publishing and numerous others including my co-author and friend Simon Ackland.
Work has been busy and I am looking forward to working with a number of new groups over the next few weeks – more to follow on that later.
I start a new training regime on Saturday and I have been working quite hard on getting my body more flexible. It has been fun listening to my daughters laugh as I try more difficult stretches, usually followed by the quote “ I used to be able to do this with ease”
I am also back to the boxing gym next week, I had a session on the bag and realised I need to sharpen up once more. I was also listening to the son of one of my ex colleagues who was a great boxer and very professional soldier. The son recounted how two very large and aggressive men got on to a tube that he was on and started to push into him and a young mother on the train. He asked if they could be careful so that the young child was not hurt and that they were scaring the young woman. They proceeded to hurl abuse at them both. Sadly for them his father was two steps back on the same tube. The father then explained to the two men that they were out of line and should refrain from further comment. In one of those wonderful Jason Bourne moments at the next stop when they got off the two thugs both realised that they should have refrained from speaking as they did as one was knocked down and then ran away to leave his friend pleading to not be hurt. Hmmm……Have a wonderful weekend