Father’s day this time has been a day to reflect on numerous things. My father is no longer here to celebrate with but I was taken back to a poem I came across when he died which is always good to read again.
And the man turned to the one who mourned and said,
You can shed tears that he is gone
Or you can smile because he has lived
You can close your eyes and pray he will come back
Or you can open your eyes and see all that he has left
You heart can be empty because you can’t see him
Or you can be full of the love that you have shared
You can remember him and only that he is gone
Or you can cherish his memory and let it live on
You can be empty and long for yesterday
Or you can do what he would want
Smile, open your eyes, love and go on.
A very powerful poem that took me about 14 times to read quietly before I could read it out aloud without having to catch myself with emotion.
My mother once again continues to amaze me in her resilience to adversity. Her hip has been displaced for the fourth time in as many months and she continues to smile and refuse to feel any self pity. “what is the point in that” is a common phrase. I have never heard her complain about an illness ever. How refreshing is it to speak to someone who does not complain about the unfairness of the world around them.
Last night was also a night to reflect on friendship as I was surrounded by some of the most talented people I have ever worked with. People that have been willing to fight alongside one another in many different fields of conflict and also celebrate each other success in life. We were there to celebrate a very talented soldiers 50th birthday and someone who has gone on to be a great success in the commercial world as well. It was nice to be taken back to activities that had almost been forgotten. I was reminded of incident where I was involved in a disagreement with three individuals outside a take away in Leeds ……..but that is for another time.
The other key element of reflection on the night is how many of the people I spoke to are still humble and in some case do not realise how talented they are. I spoke with one such talented individual about impostor syndrome, sometimes called impostor phenomenon or fraud syndrome, is a psychological phenomenon in which people are unable to internalize their accomplishments. Regardless of what level of success they may have achieved in their chosen field of work or study or what external proof they may have of their competence, those with the syndrome remain convinced internally they do not deserve the success they have achieved and are actually frauds. Proof of success is dismissed as luck, timing, or as a result of deceiving others into thinking they were more intelligent and competent than they believe themselves to be). He smiled and said “I think that is me”. Believe me this is not the case.
I have been working on many different and diverse projects and now have to be careful not to over extend. The problem with loving a job that you do is that it becomes all encompassing and you forget the key element of life which is to live it fully and enjoy the things that truly make us happy.
For me no amount of money can buy the things that make me happy/content in life and give me the balance I need. All of those things are actually free and most I have now.
Had a great board meeting earlier this week with with Britam. The result was clear actions for me to undertake over the next six months. All achievable in the time frame I have been given. It is so important to clarify what the company is prioritising so that one does not lose focus or chase the wrong projects.
Had two tough games of squash and badminton against my son who also decided that he wanted to wrestle for the title. All matches were tough and he is getting far too strong. I may need to up my game in some areas.
Which leads on to the five minute test which a very talented ex England captain is going to undertaken and try to beat my best ever total of 310. This is one challenge that I never mind people trying to beat my target. Simply because it is the hardest thing I have ever done and if it is beaten the person deserves all of the credit.
My support network has once again been amazing with people giving me advice and assistance in every field of work I currently undertake. The amount of time they have saved me and also assisted me in winning work and future projects is simple outstanding. There are far too many people to list here that’s for sure.
I go to Dubai in the middle of the week after a day of coaching and meeting various talented individuals at an anniversary event at Peckforton Castle http://peckfortoncastle.co.uk I will update later in the week on the day.
My physical training has been good of late but needs to step up so as of Tuesday I start a new trg regime for a month. It begins tomorrow with an assessment of my current levels and from there I can set new targets.
Have a wonderful week ahead.