The weekend has been excellent, I went to Rutland (Built in the 1970s to supply water to the East Midlands and originally named ‘Empingham reservoir’, Rutland Water is now Rutland’s most popular tourist attraction, It is a 3,100 acre reservoir has an international reputation for providing a balance of sport, leisure and wildlife conservation and offers everyone the opportunity to try something new.
twww.anglianwaterleisure.co.uk for the official Rutland Water pages).and spent the weekend with a friend of mine and his partner (look up Dr Neil Hawkes www.values-education.com). He is an exceptional man and someone with true authenticity. Neil has had an outstanding career as a teacher, headteacher, chief education adviser and Local Education Authority officer in the UK. From 1992, he returned to Headship to spend 7 years as Headteacher of West Kidlington Primary and Nursery School in Oxford, UK. It was here that the school community worked together to devise and implement a unique system of Values-based Education that has become well-known throughout the world for its positive transformational properties. In 1996, Neil worked with a group of international educators at UNICEF headquarters in New York, USA, to found Living Values. It works with organisations such as UNESCO to underpin education systems with Values Education. Neil is a founding member of ALIVE (The Association of Living Values International) which is a charity registered in Switzerland that coordinates Living Values Education.
We spent the weekend discussing values in business and many other issues.
My physical training has continued at a high rate this week and I am pushing myself hard over the next couple of weeks to see where I am physically. I have in mind a couple of very hard challenges and I need to see if some of my past injuries will become a problem?
The week ahead is challenging and I am looking forward to two days of coaching and also going to Portugal to work with a number of CEO’s from the world of banking.
I am also discussing a project on Mental Toughness which I have running with a very capable group of people on Friday. We will be looking at the investment so far and where this program is heading in the future.
I have also been organizing a number of bartering sessions for skills, which is to assist other people who do not have access to large budgets but also to give me the ability to learn new skills for free. I think there is something in organizing this type of activity in more effective way and involving groups who can put up their skills on a database and cross reference with others (there may be a site up already). I will look into it over the coming months.
I am also deciding whether to undertake a higher level of academic achievement in psychology and must decided on the amount of time I can dedicate to the subject and what I want to achieve from it. I wrote about limiting decisions earlier in the week and how they can prevent us from achieving things because we have made a program in our minds that becomes hidden deeply into the sub-conscious and acts as a stop to the things we want to do and we do not even remember it.
I left school with no qualifications to speak of and once before nearly fell into the trap of pursuing an academic career to prove to others that I was now an intellectual. I was asked to undertake a PhD after I had written a book on learning to learn. I thought it was a great Idea and my ego would have liked the title Dr Woodrow. I spent quite a lot time thinking about the PhD, how I would orgainse myself and undertake the study. Fortunately a voice in my mind asked me why I wanted to do this, my thoughts also took me back to being a seven-year-old boy being told he wasn’t very bright in one of my classes. All I had to do was think of the little boy (me) and send him characteristics that had he had at that time he would have not let it affect him in later life. I imagined sending him the characteristics of being confident and to trust in his abilities. By thinking of this situation in a different way it removed this limiting thought (it reframed the situation,A frame, or ‘frame of reference’ is a complex schema of unquestioned beliefs, values and so on that we use when inferring meaning. If any part of that frame is changed (hence ‘reframing’), then the meaning that is inferred may change.
To reframe, step back from what is being said and done and consider the frame, or ‘lens’ through which this reality is being created. Understand the unspoken assumptions, including beliefs and schema that are being used.
Then consider alternative lenses, effectively saying ‘Let’s look at it another way.’ Challenge the beliefs or other aspects of the frame. Stand in another frame and describe what you see. Change attributes of the frame to reverse meaning. Select and ignore aspects of words, actions and frame to emphasise and downplay various elements.
Thus, for example, you can reframe:
- A problem as an opportunity
- A weakness as a strength
- An impossibility as a distant possibility
- A distant possibility as a near possibility
- Oppression (‘against me’) as neutral (‘doesn’t care about me’)
- Unkindness as lack of understanding
You can often change a person’s frame simply by changing their emotional state, making them happier, more aggressive, etc. When they are happier, for example, they will be more positive and optimistic (and vice versa)
. I could then smile at myself and realise that I do not need to prove how clever I am to other people ever again. When I want to undertake further study it will be for me. Have a lovely week ahead………………